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I’M ERIK, YOUR NO-NONSENSE MENTOR
I transform mainly men to reclaim ownership of life & love.
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This is what most people say when they come to work with me:
They’ve got their shit pretty much together. They’ve got a successful career. They’re paying the bills. They’ve got a steady income. They’re in a relationship. They’ve got the house. They’ve got a nice car. They have the ‘ideal’ family.
Those around them feel they’ve got it all together.
Still, reality is almost always different.
They often feel:
STUCK
at where they’re at. They’re not moving forward in their life, career and/or relationship.
SEXLESS
in their relationship or intimate life. They’re not feeling the novelty, excitement and desire because the polarity with their (wo)man has gone. Or have an unhealthy balance in life resulting in little to no intimacy.
POWERLESS
because they feel they don’t have the skills, knowledge or possibilities to make that required change.
FRUSTRATED
about how life has played out. They ticked all those boxes, but are still feeling ‘meh’.
TIRED
of working their ass off, but never measuring up their own or other’s expectations.
LONELY
because they find it hard to find love, intimately communicate, handle conflict or ask for what they want.
I totally understand this, because for a long time I was exactly like this
I had it ‘all’. I was married to a beautiful wife, got 2 sons, a 6-figure income, won loads of prestigious awards with work, had many friends, a fancy house and the car I always wanted. Sounds nice, right?
Truth be told: I wasn’t only bullshitting my world, I was bullshitting myself. A lot of the major decisions in my life were taken to live up to other people’s expectations, ego-driven and conflict-avoidant.
Be brave, change the tune & let’s get to work.
And you’ll start feeling:
PROUD
about how you’re grabbing life by the balls. You’ll start ticking the boxes that actually matter to you, making you feel proud.
VIBRANT
by finally taking proper care of yourself physically, emotionally and mentally.
CONNECTED
by having the skills & tools to connect on a deeper, more intimate level
THRIVING
by moving forward again in your life, career and/or relationship. You’ll start your days excited and end them fulfilled.
SEXUALLY CHARGED
by learning about polarity play and taking charge of your desires. You’ll play and connect genuinely with (wo)men and feel sexually confident.
POWERFUL
instead of pleasing. You’ll feel strong & capable, won’t shy away from conflict and will be able to say what you want. You’ll be able to act from a grounded place & breed trust.
I combine 20 years of experience
I’ve brought together high-end business experience with NLP, transactional analysis, enneagram coaching, neuroscience, (positive) psychology, bodywork and spiritual & physical training:
10 years of experience in coaching for personal development & professional communication (trained & accredited by ITAA, EATA & NVNLP).
20 years of leading & mentoring teams for best-in-class brands like O’Neil, Vodafone, KLM, Heineken, Volkswagen, Ahold, Nintendo, PVH and many others.
7 years of organizing & participating in men’s groups.
10 years of spiritual training & self-work.
12 years of fathering 2 sons with autism & AD(H)D.
5 years of experience with trauma work through body de-armouring.
Here’s how we’ll work together
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1-on-1 sessions
You can choose from weekly, bi-weekly or monthly sessions. We’ll meet either via video call or in real life.
First call is free. Book yours here.
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Assignments
You won’t only talk, you’ll walk the walk. You’ll get tailored practices & assignments based on the outcomes of our 1-on-1 sessions to dig a little deeper and reflect, learn and practice.
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Email & text support
In between sessions you’ll be able to reach out for questions and support via secure chat, voice messaging and email. Things can get tough, challenging or confusing, but you’ll always get my support. You are not alone.
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Optional men's group
As a complimentary service, I offer my clients the option to become part of a men’s group. Here men come together with other men to talk about challenges, work, relationships, parenting, sex, and their purpose, but also kick each other’s butts and hold one another accountable.
If you feel like this is for you, book a discovery call to learn more.
How your life will improve
My work is all about change & improvement. Together, you & I will look at where you’re stuck, want to improve, how you’re limiting yourself and why you’re doing that.
I will then show you other ways of dealing with these topics and practice them with you. All the while being there to support you, hold you accountable and lovingly kick your ass when needed, while you apply your newly found knowledge in your life.
You’ll get a whole new understanding of how you could deal with your challenges. Through simple acts, new routines, changed behaviour and alternative ways of communication, you’ll start to behave in a way that makes you proud of the man you are (becoming).
This work is about improving your well-being through cultivating healthy behaviour. I will be practising this with you, getting it right, bit by bit, so you will gain the confidence to become a master of your life, relationships and accomplishments.
Who is this good for?
The man whose relationship is in a rut and wants to reconquer his partner, reigniting love, passion, connection & polarity.
The man who really wants to pursue his ideals & dreams, instead of living up to other people’s standards.
The man who’s done with procrastinating and is willing to move forward in life.
The man who’s (unknowingly) sabotaging himself and needs clarity, assistance and accountability to defuse this frustrating behaviour.
The man who’s ready to live up to his own standards.
The man who finds it hard to approach women, but wants to connect with them and is ready to step up.
The man who wants to feel strong, able & capable as a man.
The man who wants to learn to better say what he feels & thinks.
The man that aspires to be reliable, to do what he says, to grow his integrity.
The man who wants deeper, fulfilling relationships in his life. Not just with intimate partners, but with friends & family as well.
The man who wants to let go of perfectionism and learn how to be more kind to himself.
The man who wants to stop pleasing, proving, and performing for others so he can FINALLY live according to his own standards.
The man who is (done) living in a victim-mentality, (done with) blaming everyone else for his misfortunes, ready to take responsibility for his own life.
The man who knows he’s a leader, but somehow doesn’t step up to the calling and challenge.
Are you ready to step up & move on?
Or read the stories from those who came before you.
Why I mentor men?
Because I see a major problem in today’s world: we, modern Western men, are adrift. The world is changing tremendously for us. We need to be strong yet sensitive. Take the lead, but not be forceful. We ought to be tough and vulnerable. We need to provide & be a present father.
In a nutshell, being a man today, is a challenge.
For the last 60 years women have been redefining their role in society, family & relationships and work. And now men are slowly realising they haven’t adapted and are trying to find their way in a world that is changing tremendously fast. As a result boys & men are falling behind and need to redefine their place and way in this changing world and market.
Get on board!
I guarantee you it will change your life.
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