Self-avoidance never stays private. It spills outward. Into blame, conflict, and broken relationships. This piece explores how unclaimed pain becomes a public problem, and why the real work begins in the mirror.

We chase money, muscles, meaning. But kids don’t need your paycheck. They need your presence. Stop proving yourself out there, while they’re waiting for you in here.

When we struggle to shut up, say hello to our old friend Mr Ego. He's trying to compensate for our insecurities with a façade of words. Here’s an exercise for you to grow in becoming a better listener.

We men tend to want to comfort, fix and neutralize problems. We're problem solvers. But in relating, we need to learn how to deal with the discomfort of distress. When your partner is in distress, do this: VALIDATE their experience.